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Especially if the children were less than perfect, it can be a tricky question to be asked “How were the kids?” Do you let the children get away with whatever they did, or do you tell the parents that their children were brats? Or should every little detail be told so the children get upset, the parents get upset and you look like a tattle tale? It isn’t easy telling the parents their children were acting up, especially when the parents believe their children can do no wrong. The children’s behavior should come up in certain situations and here’s an explanation of when.

If household items are broken. The parents need to be told if the children broke anything other than a pencil or something insignificant. If the blame isn’t placed where it belongs, the wrong child might be blamed. Since the parents don’t know, they might all be punished for it. If the details aren’t explained, they may decide you are the irresponsible one.

Injuring a sibling. If a sibling is hurt while you’re watching the children, you might be blamed. You should report several types of situations to the family, especially when a child hurts another child and it leaves a mark of any kind. If one child is hurt, leaving a mark on the body, the situation needs to be explained to the parents and blame placed on the child that did it, and there are several reasons for this. This should be stopped right away.

That is probably against all rules in their house and the child should be stopped from doing it. The child should not be doing that, and the parents to be aware if their actions show different. The mark could be blamed on you if you don’t tell on the child. All sorts of hassles could result because of this. If you haven’t explained to the parents what happened and who did it, they might blame you because child abuse is illegal. Remember that even if you don’t blame the children, they might blame you the next day. They might not be surprised their child did that, and most parents will be understanding. Most often the child is the one blamed for doing it.

That risk is a high one to take, so don’t go that approach. The parent should be told about it, so talk over what happened. What you were doing when that happened is something they will most likely ask. Explain it to them and ask how you should handle it if it happens again. You are likely to get called back if you show you are trying to help solve the problem.

Doing Dangerous Things. If anything dangerous is done by the child, the parents definitely needs to know. The parents should be aware of it, and you need to tell them if the child was playing with matches (especially older ones that should know better) or was doing anything that they might do again. The best way to handle it is to explain that the behavior worries you, that the child may be hurt, and ask that the rules be explained to you.

Tell the parents if you already knew the rule and the child deliberately disobeyed it more than once or twice. Rather than have the child get hurt seriously while you are in charge, it’s better to have the parents or the children a little irritated.

It generally isn’t your fault when the child misbehaves if you were doing everything you were supposed to, so remember this when things go bad. At times you might feel like it was your fault because of how the parents react. Telling parents is something they might appreciate right away. But some parents won’t mind at all. Don’t take things too personally regardless of how they turn out. Rather than having anything seriously go wrong the next time you sit for a family, it is better to have told them right away.

If the child bites me, what should be my course of action?
Let the parents know. Biting can be quite problematic, particularly if the skin is broken. You should get medical attention if they bite you and the skin is broken.

Clean and sterilize the wound and cover it with a band-aid until you can get to a doctor. You must advise the parents because if the child attends daycare or school, the parents must advise the teachers of the problem so they can work together to rectify the problem.

DO NOT Bite the child back, this doesn’t teach them anything.
DO NOT Smack the Child.

If the problem persists ask the parents how they deal with undesired behavior like Biting